Day 3: Keep The Compliments Coming

February 20, 2018 11 Comments

Compliments are like verbal surprises... 

 

I never expect them, but it feels pretty great receiving them.

 

Dr. Karl Pillemer ('30 Lessons of Loving'), showed "failure to give and receive positive feedback and compliments” was one of the most common regrets of elders. And for those elders who made a habit of complimenting their spouses, the payoff was a warm atmosphere of mutual appreciation.
 
So today’s challenge is to give three people a genuine compliment. It could be a friend, family member, a partner, a complete stranger, and also someone who intimidates you (perhaps your boss).

 

Studies show compliments feel very positive for both the recipient AND the person giving them. It also enhances BOTH people’s self-worth and confidence. Because giving a genuine compliment requires us to look for the good in others. And in doing so, we also start to see the good in ourselves.
 
What a win-win scenario!
 
Plus, people love to be around positive people, and will be more likely to follow your example and listen to your ideas. So by reinforcing their value in the world, you also reinforce your own, all while strengthening your relationship and connection with that person.
 
So today, let’s be a source of positivity and happiness in others lives. A compliment is a powerful gift, that’s free to give... that you can do right now.
 
Here are simple ways
to give & receive compliments
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 Keep it Selfless & Genuine
 
After you give someone a compliment, don’t expect them to respond immediately, or give you one back. Many people feel a bit awkward or embarrassed to receive compliments and don’t know how to react or respond.
 
Give them a warm smile after your genuine compliment and expect nothing in return.
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 Forms of Compliment
 
You can compliment someone on their appearance/possessions, their talents, skills & abilities, or their character traits.
 
 You can compliment someone on the first thing that comes to your mind, but also try giving a compliment to someone that you feel goes most unrecognized. Instead of regularly focusing your compliments on people’s appearance or possessions, look for ways to compliment people for their character, their actions and their choices. This way you are seeing their inner beauty which is a more sentimental form of complimenting.
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Accept Compliments Your Way
 
Accepting compliments with gratitude and grace exhibits self-love and confidence. So don’t feel shy or embarrassed to accepting compliments. Say “thank you”. And take in how good it feels!
Giving and receiving genuine compliments gets easier with practice. A genuine compliment should feel good, sincere, and emphatic. And the more we are willing to give and receive them the more positive our outlook on life will become.

 

Let others see the beauty that you see in them. And also accept the beauty others see in you.

  

Because when we do, the things we look at change and become more beautiful.
 
With Love & Kindness, 
Brittany.

 - Challenge Prize -

To be eligible for your Free Gift at the end of this challenge post a compliment you gave to someone in the comment box below.

Did you complete yesterdays challenge?
If you did, please share your self-love activity on the blog post.

 



11 Responses

Claribel
Claribel

October 11, 2017

This morning I actually complimented one of the other moms at my daughters bus stop. She’s usually dressed very casual but today she was dressed up. I told she looked beautiful, her whole face lit up. She said it was the nicest thing someones told her in a while.

chi
chi

September 29, 2017

This one was easy for me since I try to compliment others every day :) In my role as a therapist and as a lead of my team, I try to help people find a safe place within themselves. That starts with being able to point out positive things that they are doing, who they are, etc. It’s still nice to be reminded to do this though! :)

BRITTANY
BRITTANY

September 24, 2017

This morning I complimented a woman I know that is doing an amazing selfless job of bringing awareness and support around animal rights. I admire her and others that can go out, take charge, and do brave things.

Amber Chaney
Amber Chaney

July 11, 2017

I reminded my fiancé what a great job he does at work, I told my mother her dinner was excellent, and I never forget to remind my 2 year old what an awesome job she does at counting to 10 :)

Corinne
Corinne

July 11, 2017

I had given one of my fellow co-workers a compliment on the outfit she was wearing. She had a huge smile and even told me where I could possibly buy it.

Beth
Beth

July 11, 2017

Complimented mom of one of my patients today, she was so strong and level headed during difficult times.

Monica Burlinson
Monica Burlinson

July 05, 2017

I pulled a random woman over at a restaurant and told her she looked beautiful…it really lit her up!

Amy
Amy

July 05, 2017

Complimented a single mom on her wonderful 10 year old triplets

Susan Stanton
Susan Stanton

July 04, 2017

I stopped and thanked my daughter for being her. It becomes hard to remember when your dealing with a teenager.

Sarah Chase
Sarah Chase

July 04, 2017

Really good read. Thanks for the positive thoughts. Today, I complimented someone in my training session who I felt had really excelled in a specific role play task. She lit up. It’s the little encouragements that mean so much.

Jessica
Jessica

July 04, 2017

So true! I always feel a bit awkward receiving a compliment about my me especially when it comes to looks and I don’t know why. Next time I will smile and say thank you. And as for today, I am going to compliment my mom by thanking her for always being so selfless and giving to her family and to others. I don’t think I tell her how I feel often enough.

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