Compliments are like verbal surprises...
I never expect them, but it feels pretty great receiving them.
Dr. Karl Pillemer ('30 Lessons of Loving')
, showed "failure to give and receive positive feedback and compliments” was one of the most common regrets of elders. And for those elders who made a habit of complimenting their spouses, the payoff was a warm atmosphere of mutual appreciation.
So today’s challenge is to give three people a genuine compliment. It could be a friend, family member, a partner, a complete stranger, and also someone who intimidates you (perhaps your boss).
Studies show compliments feel very positive for both the recipient AND the person giving them. It also enhances BOTH people’s self-worth and confidence. Because giving a genuine compliment requires us to look for the good in others. And in doing so, we also start to see the good in ourselves.
What a win-win scenario!
Plus, people love to be around positive people, and will be more likely to follow your example and listen to your ideas. So by reinforcing their value in the world, you also reinforce your own, all while strengthening your relationship and connection with that person.
So today, let’s be a source of positivity and happiness in others lives. A compliment is a powerful gift, that’s free to give... that you can do right now.
Here are simple ways
to give & receive compliments
Keep it Selfless & Genuine
After you give someone a compliment, don’t expect them to respond immediately, or give you one back. Many people feel a bit awkward or embarrassed to receive compliments and don’t know how to react or respond.
Give them a warm smile after your genuine compliment and expect nothing in return.
Forms of Compliment
You can compliment someone on their appearance/possessions, their talents, skills & abilities, or their character traits.
You can compliment someone on the first thing that comes to your mind, but also try giving a compliment to someone that you feel goes most unrecognized. Instead of regularly focusing your compliments on people’s appearance or possessions, look for ways to compliment people for their character, their actions and their choices. This way you are seeing their inner beauty which is a more sentimental form of complimenting.
Accept Compliments Your Way
Accepting compliments with gratitude and grace exhibits self-love and confidence. So don’t feel shy or embarrassed to accepting compliments. Say “thank you”. And take in how good it feels!
Giving and receiving genuine compliments gets easier with practice. A genuine compliment should feel good, sincere, and emphatic. And the more we are willing to give and receive them the more positive our outlook on life will become.
Let others see the beauty that you see in them. And also accept the beauty others see in you.
Because when we do, the things we look at change and become more beautiful.
With Love & Kindness,
- Challenge Prize -
To be eligible for your Free Gift at the end of this challenge post a compliment you gave to someone in the comment box below.
Did you complete yesterdays challenge?If you did, please share your self-love activity on the blog post.