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According to life coach Tony Robbins, there are six core human needs that every human being desires:
 
certainty,
variety
significance,
love & connection,
growth,
contribution.
 
We often seek comfort and certainty when things are tough.
 
Yet, when things are stable, we start to seek new things...
 
like change, excitement & variety.
 
This is why it's important to make time for variety
 
And why variety is key to enriching our connections and deepening our relationships.
 
It allows us to encourage the people we love, to step outside our comfort zones, and learn and experience new things - together.
 
For today's challenge, we will focus on variety. And show you how to bring more liveliness, intrigue, and spontaneity back into your relationships.
 
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It's common to get stuck in a daily routine that allows our relationships to run on autopilot. In the process, we forget to make time for surprises and challenges that bring a boost of excitement to our week. But when we don't get enough variety in our relationships, those relationships can often become more dull and boring.
 
So today we will discuss the benefits of variety and simple ways we can make time for it in our busy lives. 
 
Simple ways to add variety into your day: 
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1) Surprise someone with a small thoughtful gift 
 Get tickets to an upcoming concert in town or a wine tasting tour.
 
2) Cook your partner’s favorite meal or treat 
Cook your partner's favorite meal or bake their favorite treat. You can even go out for dinner and enjoy a night out if this is something you don't do very often.
 
3) Plan a surprise weekend getaway.
It can be a long road trip or just a short trip an hour away. Getting out of your normal atmosphere and surrounded by something new and different is a healthy way to add more variety to your life. 
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4) Send loving, funny or romantic text message you wouldn't normally send.
Click here to see a list of short text messages to send someone to express love, admiration, or encouragement.
 
5) Schedule a date night 
In long-term relationships, date-night often gets traded for ordering in and sitting on the coach. As a result, relationships can start getting a bit dull and unexciting. Schedule a date night ever so often so you can spend quality time together, whether it be as a family or as a couple.
 
6) Try something new together 
Take a dance class, a cooking class, run a marathon together, or signup for a team league together. Doing something challenging and exciting on a weekly basis is a great way to add more variety to your life and can help you grow together.
 
7) Help manifest wishes & dreams 
It's likely that at some point we discuss our hope and dreams with the people we love. However, over time, those sorts of conversations can become more uncommon. Set some time aside to continue to discuss your wishes and dreams with the ones you love and set a plan to support one another in making those dreams a reality. Maybe you've always dreamed of taking a trip to Hawaii together, start looking at vacation ideas and plan out ways to make it achievable or affordable in the future. Maybe your child has a dream of being a baseball player, why not sign them up for little league or take them to an MLB game. Or why not take your best friend to a concert when her favorite band comes to town. 
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Healthy relationships should nurture each other's passions in life. It's key to making us feel happy and fulfilled. 
 
8) Take a Long Hike Together
Get out into nature, enjoy the stillness and serenity, it's a great way to release day-to-day stress. If it's summer, you could also rent a canoe or kayak, or watch the stars or the sunset in a new and relaxing atmosphere. If it's winter take a walk in the woods, appreciate the snowy branches and take in the beauty of winter.
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We all have a need for variety, as the saying goes, "variety is the spice of life." It is a core human need that resides in us all. So make time for variety and get out of your daily routine! These types of surprises will keep the excitement alive and prevent you from getting stuck in a relationship rut. It's a significant way to keep your relationships exciting and fun. 
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You never know what memories you will make, or what moments you will share that will make you laugh, smile and reconnect with those you love. 
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Today's Challenge:
Do one thing today that is out of your normal routine with someone you love, post your experience in the comment box below.
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With Love & Kindness, 
- Brittany

 

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14 Responses

Claribel
Claribel

October 14, 2017

Today Im actually making my fiances favorite food mexican steak burritos.

Jessica T
Jessica T

October 12, 2017

We decided to sign up for a volleyball league together on Wednesdays. We both love the sport and are excited about it.

chi
chi

September 29, 2017

I scheduled a date night with my hubby (we try to do that every month) and we are going to paint for the first time! :)

Jen B
Jen B

September 28, 2017

I took my sister to a baseball game, she loves the jays. We had a super fun time too.

Susan Stanton
Susan Stanton

July 11, 2017

Thank you for reminding me not to underestimate my relationship with routine, I bought tickets to my husbands favorite band. Can’t wait to go!

Amber Chaney
Amber Chaney

July 11, 2017

Me and my man sat down to discuss our future plans (work,college,kids, etc)

Corinne
Corinne

July 11, 2017

I created a beautiful collage today for my husband of all the memories we’ve had together since we’ve been a couple. He loved it and it brought back a lot of memories

Beth
Beth

July 11, 2017

Sent my husband a nice text with cute emojis, he usually texts me first, since we are apart with work, but I got him first!

Beth
Beth

July 11, 2017

Amen

Lucy Cox
Lucy Cox

July 11, 2017

It is hard to do something like this. My husband is in Iowa and I am in Kansas. But I do send him little gifts every once in a while.

Jessica
Jessica

July 11, 2017

Took my family out to play baseball at the park. It was a lot of fun! We all had a great time.

Sarah Chase
Sarah Chase

July 10, 2017

I cooked a dinner I wouldn’t typically cook because I knew my husband would love it. Because he went on a walk and adventure I suggested that he normally wouldn’t think of, but we both really enjoyed because it was completely different than the normal day. Great to mix things up sometimes!

Amy
Amy

July 10, 2017

I invited a friend I haven’t seen in a while for dinner!!

Monica B
Monica B

July 10, 2017

Surprise dinner tonight for my love!

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